Two Months of Changes
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2 months
It's amazing how quickly the perception over the world changes. Today we celebrate two months since we became three. During this time I’ve tried to write things on the blog, but let say that I was a bit busy. However, last weekend I wrote a text about how our currently new life splits between two extremes: either we have part of a lot of walking, or a lot of sitting (both consuming the same amount of energy), considering that we have a baby who loves to sleep outside swinging, and his sleep during lunch time means walking about 6-7 km (minimum).
Today I wanted to translate that text so that I could put it on the blog, but when I read it again I realized that what I wrote there doesn’t really apply anymore, not because we’ve changed the pace of walking or sitting, but because we mentioned there how we have adapted to our new life and how we accepted what was happening to us. Which is true, but somehow I don't think I was completely honest when I wrote it. I was rather on the principle of "fake it till you make it", which I understood after listening to one of the episodes of the podcast "moms" made by Dor (“decat o revista”) magazine.
Life with Albert is wonderful, and I will never doubt it! However, I must admit that the transition was very sudden, and even though we had the 9 months to get used with the fact that we will have a baby, to be able to embrace it for real. With self honesty such a change, I think takes more than 2 months. This change that we had to get used to was on a theoretical level, and I don't think you can ever really be prepared for this until you feel it on your own (or at least that's how we feel about it).
Yes, now we have a wonderful child, who has other needs than we were used to before. I try to be 100% for him, but I have to admit that there are moments when I would have wished to spend a little more than 5 minutes to get dressed to go out for a walk, and also to choose other clothes than the ones I wore in the last 3 days. To be fair, I didn't spend too much time getting ready before, but at least I had more time to think about what I wanted to put on me). And I honestly think this is not even about time right now, but rather about who I am in the new existence, and what objects I find myself being surrounded by.
I decided that at some point I will do a massive sorting of my clothes (I say massive not because I have too many but because I don't feel much of them anymore) and try to (re) find my identity. The clothes are not defining the man but in this case it helps me to have like 5 outfits that I know I can put on me when I have less than 5 minutes to leave the house, that make me feel good and confident in myself.
It seems like everything happens much faster than before and when I get 10 "free" minutes because Philippe stays with Albert, I don't know what to do with them first (and I certainly don't think about going to fix my wardrobe), and because they are too sweet, I end up spending this time also with them, playing together (we are at the stage where Albert starts to smile and laugh so we enjoy at maximum his level of cuteness). It Is beautiful! And this process of adaptation is longer, but we are on our way, and that feels so good!
2 months
It's amazing how quickly the perception over the world changes. Today we celebrate two months since we became three. During this time I’ve tried to write things on the blog, but let say that I was a bit busy. However, last weekend I wrote a text about how our currently new life splits between two extremes: either we have part of a lot of walking, or a lot of sitting (both consuming the same amount of energy), considering that we have a baby who loves to sleep outside swinging, and his sleep during lunch time means walking about 6-7 km (minimum).
Today I wanted to translate that text so that I could put it on the blog, but when I read it again I realized that what I wrote there doesn’t really apply anymore, not because we’ve changed the pace of walking or sitting, but because we mentioned there how we have adapted to our new life and how we accepted what was happening to us. Which is true, but somehow I don't think I was completely honest when I wrote it. I was rather on the principle of "fake it till you make it", which I understood after listening to one of the episodes of the podcast "moms" made by Dor (“decat o revista”) magazine.
Life with Albert is wonderful, and I will never doubt it! However, I must admit that the transition was very sudden, and even though we had the 9 months to get used with the fact that we will have a baby, to be able to embrace it for real. With self honesty such a change, I think takes more than 2 months. This change that we had to get used to was on a theoretical level, and I don't think you can ever really be prepared for this until you feel it on your own (or at least that's how we feel about it).
Yes, now we have a wonderful child, who has other needs than we were used to before. I try to be 100% for him, but I have to admit that there are moments when I would have wished to spend a little more than 5 minutes to get dressed to go out for a walk, and also to choose other clothes than the ones I wore in the last 3 days. To be fair, I didn't spend too much time getting ready before, but at least I had more time to think about what I wanted to put on me). And I honestly think this is not even about time right now, but rather about who I am in the new existence, and what objects I find myself being surrounded by.
I decided that at some point I will do a massive sorting of my clothes (I say massive not because I have too many but because I don't feel much of them anymore) and try to (re) find my identity. The clothes are not defining the man but in this case it helps me to have like 5 outfits that I know I can put on me when I have less than 5 minutes to leave the house, that make me feel good and confident in myself.
It seems like everything happens much faster than before and when I get 10 "free" minutes because Philippe stays with Albert, I don't know what to do with them first (and I certainly don't think about going to fix my wardrobe), and because they are too sweet, I end up spending this time also with them, playing together (we are at the stage where Albert starts to smile and laugh so we enjoy at maximum his level of cuteness). It Is beautiful! And this process of adaptation is longer, but we are on our way, and that feels so good!
